What it takes to be honest…!

            It sounds paradoxical that perhaps one of the costliest thing in this world is among the ones which a person has already taken advantage of but doesn’t have the potential to own it. I am talking about those happenings people try hard to avoid attaching themselves, considering that in others eyes it’s a mistake which will  drive themselves to awkwardness and hence humiliation. To most human beings owning a mistake is almost a death like experience and to keep away from this to happen people use the largely exploited escapism- dishonesty.

When you apprehend a possible outcome or reaction you stage-manage accordingly to avoid any objectionable episode. Brain grabs every opportunity to work out a solution at the slightest instance of botheration. It is quite evident that human brain has affinity towards complex things (for it gets a chance to solve it) and the psyche towards strife-free states. This combination directs the person in a way whereby he doesn’t have to encounter a situation in which he would have to face even an infinitesimal degree of inconvenience, thereby retain the feeling of happiness in and around him.

 As we see here the conduct of a person is not a conscious effort but it is getting carved in accordance with fear of facing unpleasantness. Dishonesty thus is a derived basic instinct. Nobody teaches a child that to evade displeasing the teacher, shield yourself under the aegis of ill-health; or that flattery can win favours from influential peers; that faking ignorance is best way to elude work at office; and that till telecom gadgets are equipped with RFID one should exploit every chance and lie about the place where you actually are. Needless to say that when faced with much grave and bigger issue this tendency is bound to make you act in a manner to disguise things that happened in order to remain mentally undisturbed. Certainly dishonesty is a role play which never needs rehearsals.

When you are being dishonest to somebody you give that person a glass which leaves your impression on the person as you want it to be. Over a period of time your new self will replace the old in the mind of the person to realize that your original self cease to exist in his mind. At this point you notice that you are no longer acknowledged and received by others as you used to be and then you start missing your own self. It then becomes extremely difficult to role play for you no longer endorse the pseudo personality that has substituted yours making it more troublesome to act rather than facing the truth.

              It simply takes ‘you’ to be honest. The stronger the urge to get identification of yourself the more intensely you come out open as you are. Kids have unconditional love towards oneself and their family members. You would have never imagined as a kid that when you grow up life could bring you at cross-roads where it would be nightmarish for you to attach yourself with what you have done or have inclination for, even if it is a small thing. The child’s sense of innocent pride fades and fails to draw you to come out as you are. It appears that you need bravery to be known for what you are. Perhaps self-confrontation is one of the toughest thing in this world.

May be the qualities- honesty and valour share the same gene and thus undoubtedly it takes a man to be honest!